Day: January 18, 2023

The word ‘tip’ stands for ‘to insure promptness.’ So when should you give it? Up front,of course. Sophisticated people don’t… – Jim Rohn quotes at AZquotes.com
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Discover the importance of when to tip
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Years ago I heard a story from a motivational speaker named Jim Rohn that forever changed the way I thought/think about tipping. I can’t remember the story exactly as he told it but the following re-creation makes the same basic point. Jim had a mentor named Mr. Shoaff who one day asked him, “Jim, when you get your shoes shined, how much do you tip the person who shined your shoes?” Jim replied, “A quarter.” Note: this story is from a very long time ago. Mr. Shoaff inquired, “How does that make you feel?” Jim said, “I don’t know, fine.” Mr. Shoaff replied, “What if you gave him two quarters, how would that make you feel?” Jim, “I guess … Great.” Mr. Shoaff, “Jim, whenever you’re trying to decide what amount you’re going to give as a tip, and two numbers pop into your head, always choose the larger number. Become a two quarter tipper—not just because the other person deserves it, but because of how it’ll make you feel.” I love that story. It changed my life. And now I want to pass it along to you—along with a few other ideas behind this concept. I. Successful People Don’t Think In Terms of Scarcity One of the reasons why so many people are such poor tippers is because they come from a place of scarcity. “If I give a 20% tip on top of these already high prices this restaurant is charging me, I’ll have less money to spend on the things I want to spend my money on.” That’s a scarcity mindset (“I only have so much and if I give some away I’ll have less”). You don’t want to think that way. Successful people come from a place of abundance. They believe that there’s always more and that when you give, you always end up with more. Biblically we know this to be true because when we give, God always blesses us with more. And the more we give, the more we get in return. So, if you want to live a highly successful life, choose a mindset of abundance, not scarcity—and you’ll find that being a good tipper is a piece of cake. II. Tipping is a Great Gauge of Generosity If you were to force me to pick one core value that I wish every person had (which obviously would include you), I think generosity might be it. It’s at the very heart of God (“For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son …”) and it’s what He demonstrates every day. God is incredibly generous. But how can you know if you’re generous? Well, one easy way is to look at your tipping. Stingy people (meaning, non-generous people), are terrible tippers. Stingy people want to give the least amount away. Why? Because they want to spend all “their money” on them (“It’s my money after all. I worked for it.”). However, generous people are the exact opposite. Generous people are constantly looking for ways they can bless other people with what they possess because they don’t see “their money” as something for just them. They see “their money” as simply a tool to use to help others (including themselves and their family). Which is why, if you want to know if you have a generous heart, one quick test is to see how much you tip. In fact, to help you answer this question, here are two additional questions that can help you know if your heart is stingy or generous. 1. If you’re wondering, “What’s the least amount I can give and at least be respectable?” then chances are your heart is stingy. 2. If, on the other hand, you’re wondering, “What’s the most I can give this person?” or, “‘What would positively surprise this person?” chances are you have a generous heart. So, what does your tipping say about your level of generosity? III. How You Treat Those Who Serve You Says A Lot About You If you were ever to be interviewed by me for a job, chances are we’d meet at a restaurant at some point before I hired you. Why? Because one of the tests I use before hiring anybody (who’s local) is seeing how they treat wait staff. Do they recognize the server? Or not? Do they listen and remember the server’s name? Or not? Do they use the server’s name when they want something or the server brings something to the table? or not? Do they acknowledge the server when the server brings something to the table? Or not? Do they treat the server with respect? Or not? Do they look at the server and speak clearly to them? Or not? Do they engage the server in a conversation? Or not? Now, why do I use that test? Because how someone treats those who serve them says a whole lot about the character of the person. Similarly, how you (or I) tip someone says a lot about our character. IV. Being Generous Always Makes You Feel Great Yes, we should tip well because it’s the right thing to do (and that’s how servers make their living). But one of the things I love about God is that He usually rewards us for doing what’s right by letting us feel good about it (i.e. when we obey, he gives us His joy—John 15:10,11). When Jesus says, “It is more blessed to give than receive,” He was right. The real joy in life isn’t found in receiving from others, it’s found in giving to others. And that is clearly true in the case of tipping. For example, as of the date I’m writing this letter, the normal restaurant tipping rate is 15%. That’s what’s expected. If you give less than 15%, chances are you’ll feel cheap and that’s a terrible way to live. If you give 15%, you’ll probably feel “nothing” because you simply met the expected tip rate for a restaurant meal here in the US. However, if you choose to bless your server with a 20% or 25% or 30% (or more) tip, chances are you’ll walk out of that restaurant feeling great. You’ll have a smile on your face—and so will your server. Why would you want to live any other way! So, if you want to feel good about yourself, if you want to make others feel great, if you want to be a generous person, if you want to honor God, if you want to live a life of abundance, not scarcity, and if you want to be a more successful human being, make sure you always tip well. It’s one of those simple little things that says a lot about you. To your accelerated success! P.S. The reason why that Jim Rohn story was so meaningful to me was because I was that stingy person for the first few decades of my life—and I never felt great leaving a restaurant. Once I changed (and it’s always possible to change), that has not been my experience. I now leave feeling great. Even if the service wasn’t great. It’s not my job to “teach the server what good service is.” That’s their bosses job. My job and privilege is to bless them (noting, of course, that great service always gets a bigger blessing 🙂
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Jim Rohn: “Even in The Beginning I Tipped Like a Rich Man, Because I Knew I was Gonna Be Rich.” – Sean Croxton
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“Every thought we think and every word we speak is creating our future.” Interview from never-before-seen footage from the making of the film on Louise L. Ha…
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Self-care is important for your mental health. These 10 lessons can help you build healthy habits.
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The Power of 30 Days – Christa Smith
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1) Start with Abraham’s 30-day process: Abraham discussed this outline for what to do when you are serious about changing the vibrations you aligning
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Carolyn Hax: Husband leaves her for another mom in their son’s class – oregonlive.com
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Carolyn Hax: Depressed patient can’t get through to a therapist – oregonlive.com
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Carolyn Hax: How do we get out of dining with in-laws who are rude to the staff? – oregonlive.com
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Carolyn Hax: Brother’s family chooses dog ownership over visits from nephew – oregonlive.com
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He won’t let his parents see his kid because of his father’s anger issues. His mom doesn’t think that’s fair.
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Is it her place to tell a fellow mom to stop getting caught up in their teenage daughters’ dramas?
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A spouse is frustrated by her husband, who spends hours on the phone each day, “relegating his work and home responsibilities to the backburner.”
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Debra has a “moment”
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This week, an adult man who thought his irritated girlfriend might appreciate some Midol, a reader who didn’t like a piece of writing and sent a list of grievances to the author and a long-held grudge over destination wedding gifts.
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Looking for fun Aunt ideas to do with the nieces and nephews? This link has tons of ideas for how to be a good aunt and Aunt FUN!
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Who says that grandparents and parents are the only important figures in a child’s life? Aunts also play a very important role in the upbringing of their nieces and nephews.
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How common is it that an aunt has sex with her blood nephew? – Quora
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I realized I’m not actually bisexual, as I thought I was. I’m a lesbian…
I’m scared to cancel the wedding and tell my family and let his family
down, but I’m also scared to live the rest of my life feeling as
unfulfilled as I do now…. I don’t know how to call off a wedding and not be
a terrible person for doing that.
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I’m in love with a man at work who does not know that I adore him. My
dilemma is that I didn’t know that he had a fiancé until recently… Now, I
am changing jobs by being transferred to work at another school. He says
that he’s going to miss me. Should I tell him that I love him, even though
there is a big possibility we will never see each other again?
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My boyfriend said he’s questioning his sexuality… He’s broken up with me at
this point… He still says he’s attracted to me and ultimately wants me in
his life. He says he still sees a future, but we’re still broken up… Where
do I go from here? Am I kidding myself into thinking it’s salvageable, or
is my relationship DOA?”
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I let my boyfriend of almost two years move in… It’s been about a month…
And I don’t trust him. He lies about dumb things… I pay for all the
groceries and pick up the house and do our laundry, etc. I feel more like
his mother than his girlfriend.
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Our frustration is that only one family will ask to bring a dish to help.
Everyone else just shows up empty-handed for the picnic. This is for every
get-together.
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I’ve been with my significant other for almost ten years now…. Long story
short, my family disapproves of him, and it is tremendous stress that I
need to address. I’m just not sure how. I love my significant other and
want it to work more than anything, but sometimes I am not 100% certain we
are best for each other.
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Ask Amy: Woman’s husband has ruined many friendships due to his excessive drinking – nj.com
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Miss Manners: Some of our overnight guests strip their beds. … For me, this is absolutely unwanted. – nj.com
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Dear Abby: I don’t want my verbally abusive mother-in-law to know if I become pregnant – nj.com
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Miss Manners: I don’t mind that my colleagues talk, but they are loud. Very loud. Way, way too loud! – nj.com
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When and where and how much to tip: Tipping guidelines for three of the most common times tipping is expected: at restaurants, during travel, and at salons. Done well tipping should make everyone involved feel good. Gratuity is about gratitude.
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Dear Abby: ‘Wishing I had a son doesn’t mean I don’t love my daughters’ – nj.com
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Dear Abby: Longtime marriage has settled into lonely routine for wife – nj.com
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Ask Amy: Retired man doesn’t feel welcome in his own house – nj.com
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Dear Annie: Mother is heartbroken when son moves out, cuts off contact with no explanation – nj.com
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Dear Abby: My boyfriend sends roses to my workplace and it makes me feel like a spectacle – nj.com
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Miss Manners: Traveler is unhappy to be stuck in a cab with a conspiracy theorist – nj.com
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Dear Abby: Father of five-month-old who drinks and smokes excessively makes no effort to parent – nj.com
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Miss Manners: What if I don’t want to have a ‘blessed’ day, for crying out loud? – oregonlive.com
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Dear Abby: Stranger at party upset over casual chat about a health issue. Who’s wrong here? – oregonlive.com
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Dear Annie: Parents getting involved in sibling feuds may just make it worse – oregonlive.com
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Miss Manners: Why do new checkout devices presume I wish to tip the clerk? – oregonlive.com
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We have a very strong bond.
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Other parents give me the stink eye.
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I often misplace things.
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Ask Amy: Friend gives ‘excessive gifts’ I don’t want, am I ungrateful? – masslive.com
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Ask Amy: 23-year-old personal trainer getting way too personal with female clients
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The GAD-7 (General Anxiety Disorder-7) measures severity of anxiety, mainly in outpatients.
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The PHQ-9 (Patient Health Questionnaire-9) objectifies and assesses degree of depression severity via questionnaire.
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Worksheets for “Feeling Good” by David Burns [cross post from /r/getting_over_it] : r/depression
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Energy psychology is a relatively new method of therapy that combines Eastern approaches with Western psychology and psychotherapy ideas.
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The emotional freedom technique, or EFT, has grown in popularity as a method to help ease stress, fear, and anxiety. EFT involves a series of tapping.
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Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is an effective, structured approach to couples therapy that can help couples form stronger emotional bonds.
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